The elitist, the snob, the know-it-all and those that are just plain rude.
Amy Johnson Crow published a post titled "Genealogy and Elitism: It Isn't What you Say, It's How you Say It." This post resonated with me on many levels, especially when she shared an example of genealogy scolding witnessed first hand in a library.
I've read posts eluding to the elitists in our midst. I never knew who "they" were for sure but the occasional blog or social media post lead me to believe they are alive, well and ticking people off.
Your intentions are good and you mean well. Your delivery, however, could use a little work.
Recently I posted a question in a Facebook group. I posted a specific question for a specific reason. The question related to an ancestor I have been researching for close to 14 years now. I will paraphrase the first reply I received: "that's a bad approach, let us know when you are serious about researching this person and we will try to help."
I have a few things to say about that comment.
- That's the best you got? Why comment at all?
- Was your point to make me look stupid or tick me off?
- The only way you could top that answer was to have said "Google It." BTW don't say that to a complete stranger that visits your group asking for help. Ever.
That was a recent experience. There have been other instances in the past and I also witnessed a similar non-helpful, wasted comment directed towards another individual that specifically stated she was a newbie. So, yes it is happening.
Shake it Off
What was my reply to the rudemaster in my example above? Nothing. I saw no point in trying to educate the person in the basics of common courtesy. To be honest, I looked at my laptop screen, pointed at the rudemaster and said "you are a jerk." Then I went about my business. That's what I'm suggesting you do too. Pick your battles folks and shake it off!
Your ancestral quest is your journey, this is your adventure! Don't let someone with misplaced intentions, or a very poor communicator, get to you. Keep moving forward searching and finding those ancestors. Yes, you will have to deal with those that are a bit snooty, but so what. There are plenty of others that will bend over backwards to help you out. Find them and leave the others behind.